Connect the Dots.
Reveal the Big Picture.

Online therapy for adults looking for the best version of themselves in New York City and across New York State.


Support For Your Wellbeing

I work with people who are hungry to understand themselves better and move in a positive direction in their lives. Often, this feels like being lost, confused, or like you keep banging your head against a wall but for the life of you, can't seem to find a way around it. My role is to be a guide, provide a map, and point out those unexpected and intriguing sights along the way.

I treat people suffering from personal or professional anxiety, negative self-beliefs, and those unable to communicate or set boundaries with others. I also enjoy working with individuals trying to heal from trauma and young adults navigating the twists and turns life throws their way. High-achievers, people-pleasers, and life-transitioners often find their way into my practice.

I'm here to unravel the complicated and help you live the life you really want to live.

Support for you, wherever you are.
Even if you don't know where that is.

Nice to Meet You

Jacob Mergendoller is a New York City-based psychotherapist
Jacob Mergendoller is a New York City-based psychotherapist

My kind of therapy isn't a one-way street. I don't expect you to share everything about yourself and not know anything about me. So let's get to know each other a little bit.


Just because you can push through alone, that doesn't mean you have to.

You're used to being able to handle what life throws at you. So it looks like you have everything sorted out – except on the inside, things are a mess. You’ve tried the latest self-care fads making the rounds on social media. Journaling. Meditation. Yoga. Coloring books. Sometimes these are helpful. Sometimes they just make you roll your eyes.

Therapy has always been an option, but it's usually you suggesting it to a friend. You might have thought to yourself, “they're really going through a crisis, they need therapy. They deserve it.”. But you? You’re so used to pushing through on your own, it’s become a point of pride.

If you know all this, you probably also know all the things you do to distract yourself from what’s really bothering you. Drinks. Dates. Working all the time. Constant positivity. You’ve gotten good at these – add them to the list of things you’re proud of. But there’s something empty about it all. That mess on the inside is still there and thriving. And if we're being honest, these excuses simply allow you to avoid the discomfort of acknowledging something deeper. Pain. Grief. Negative self-beliefs. Uncertainty.

You could probably continue pushing through on your own. But you don’t want to keep the status quo. You want growth, improvement, to find the best version of yourself. So let’s start there.

Tell me about that life you really want to live.

You're here because you know that


These are some of the challenges I typically help people through. Don't see something specific? Let's talk – we still might be a good fit.


Many people experience anxiety on some level. When it begins to interfere with daily living or you notice it pulling you further and further from the present moment, it's time to see if therapy can help.

Anxious woman in bed with her hands over her head.Anxious woman in bed with her hands over her head.

When a traumatic or distressing event happens to us, it can make us feel stuck in the past or create negative beliefs about ourselves. I offer specific kinds of therapy (including EMDR) to help you heal and move forward.

Going through a life transition can be overwhelming, paralyzing, and confusing. With the right coping strategies, tools, and mindset, we can better navigate the changes life throws our way.

Life transitions
Woman resting her head on a friend's shoulderWoman resting her head on a friend's shoulder
Grand Central Terminal in New York City at rush hourGrand Central Terminal in New York City at rush hour


Work stress

Work shouldn't be an everyday struggle. If you feel beat down, burnt out, or unmotivated at work, therapy can help you identify the things you'd like to change and accept the things you cannot.

Woman at work experiencing burnout and stressWoman at work experiencing burnout and stress
communication and boundaries

Communication is at the core of how we connect with others and build relationships. But it's not always easy. Therapy can help you more authentically express yourself and set healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.

While "men's issues" are certainly not limited to gender, boys and men often do not have a space to show vulnerability or the tools needed to effectively communicate. Therapy is a huge towards better understanding your emotions.

therapy for men
Scrabble tiles to illustrate therapy for communication and boundariesScrabble tiles to illustrate therapy for communication and boundaries
A young man in reflection, looking at neon lightA young man in reflection, looking at neon light

Find Your Answers

Therapy can be confusing. These answers may give you some clarity.

A Rubik's cube represents the many questions about starting therapy
A Rubik's cube represents the many questions about starting therapy


Where Do We Begin?

The first step is scheduling a consultation call to make sure we're the right fit. If we decide to move forward together, we’ll discuss the details like how often we'll meet, when, and payment. At the moment, all sessions are remote and held via a HIPAA-compliant telehealth platform. While I do work on a sliding scale, the majority of my practice takes advantage of out-of-network benefits.

let's start!