Online Therapy in New York City

Mental health counseling for people-pleasers, self-doubters, life-transitioners, and trauma-healers.


Support For Your Wellbeing

I work with people who are hungry to understand themselves better and move in a positive direction in their lives. Often, this feels like being lost, confused, or stuck. My role is to be a guide, provide a map, and point out those unexpected and intriguing sights along the way.

I treat people suffering from personal or professional anxiety, negative self-beliefs, and those unable to communicate or set boundaries with others. I also enjoy working with individuals trying to heal from trauma and young adults navigating the twists and turns life throws their way. High-achievers, people-pleasers, and life-transitioners often find their way into my practice.

I'm here to unravel the complicated and help you live the life you really want to live.

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

Nice to Meet You

Jacob Mergendoller is a New York City-based psychotherapist
Jacob Mergendoller is a New York City-based psychotherapist

My kind of therapy isn't a one-way street. I don't expect you to share everything about yourself and not know anything about me. So let's get to know each other a little bit.


Just because you can push through alone, that doesn't mean you have to.

You're used to being able to handle what life throws at you. So it looks like you have everything sorted out – except on the inside, things are a mess. You’ve tried the latest self-care fads making the rounds on social media. Journaling. Meditation. Yoga. Coloring books. Sometimes these are helpful. Sometimes they just make you roll your eyes.

Therapy has always been an option, but it's usually you suggesting it to a friend. You might have thought to yourself, “they're really going through a crisis, they need therapy. They deserve it.”. But you? You’re so used to pushing through on your own, it’s become a point of pride.

If you know all this, you probably also know all the things you do to distract yourself from what’s really bothering you. Drinks. Dates. Working all the time. Constant positivity. You’ve gotten good at these (add them to the list of things you’re proud of), but there’s something empty about it all. That mess on the inside is still there and thriving. And if we're being honest, these excuses simply allow you to avoid the discomfort of acknowledging something deeper. Pain. Grief. Negative self-beliefs. Uncertainty.

You could probably continue pushing through on your own. But you don’t want to keep the status quo. You want growth, improvement, to get closer to the life that you imagined living. So let’s start there.

Tell me about that life you really want to live.

You're here because you know that



These are some of the challenges I typically help people through. Don't see something specific? Let's talk – we still might be a good fit.


Find Your Answers

Therapy can be confusing. These answers may give you some clarity.

A Rubik's cube represents the many questions about starting therapy
A Rubik's cube represents the many questions about starting therapy


Where Do We Begin?

The first step is scheduling a consultation call to make sure we're the right fit. If we decide to move forward together, we’ll discuss the details like how often we'll meet, when, and payment. At the moment, all sessions are remote and held via a HIPAA-compliant telehealth platform. While I do work on a sliding scale, the majority of my practice takes advantage of out-of-network benefits.

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